Experience Real Relationship

We are so glad that you are here and want to help you get connected into Real Relationship!  We’ve got groups all over town with people who are growing in relationship with Jesus and each other! Send us a message below and we’ll help you find a group.

We ask that anyone who wants to join a Group first attend our RLM 101 class.  This class helps us make sure we are all aligned and pushing in the same direction.  It is a great place to get a picture of where Real Life began, what we care about and how we strive to carry out the mission Jesus has entrusted to us.

What to Expect/Group Guidelines


We commit to being real, (appropriately) open and vulnerable.

We keep making the decision to be present and to begin building trust with others by allowing them to see the true us. Authenticity, openness and vulnerability lead us to growth and fruitfulness.

We commit to honor and protect each other through confidentiality.

We want to do what we can to be such safe people that they can be real, open and honest, so we don’t share what someone else says to us or the group unless they specifically give us permission.

We actively listen (lean in) to whoever is speaking.

We want to honor each other and so we strive to be fully present and not thinking about our own answer, the next question or our grocery lists. We listen like we would like to be listened to. This means we do not have side conversations and we are okay with others calling us out if they begin.

We actively participate in the conversations.

We see ourselves as a necessary and important contributor, and so we don’t allow ourselves to only be listeners. Trust occurs when we each one of us engages and adds to the conversation. Inside of this, we are sensitive to how much we share, making sure that we leave a lot of room for other people to participate as well.

We talk in a way that reflects specific, individual application.

We want to apply and be changed by the content and the conversation. When we talk about “we” or “them” or “the world,” we often are missing the impact it needs to have on and in us. We use “I” statements to personalize and own what we are saying.

We leave a ton of room for the Holy Spirit to do His work to encourage, convict, correct and inspire.

The Holy Spirit is REALLY, REALLY good at His work. We are available to give encouragement, ask good questions, point people to Jesus and be a safe place for people to process. We resist the urge to fix, rescue or offer solutions unless they are asked for, and even then, we believe that some struggle is healthy.

We resolve conflict the way Jesus said to. Here are some key Scriptures to refer to:

If someone sins against you. (Matthew 18:15-20) / Restoring someone in sin. (Galatians 6:1-5)

Forgive a sinner. (Colossians 3:12-13) / Reconciling differences. (Matthew 5:23-24)

We honor our host home by honoring their time, space and any household rules they have.